Number 5 is about modeling self-compassion not self-judgment. Everyone has a voice inside their head that monitors their behavior. This voice is your conscience or if it gets nasty, we call it your inner critic. Are familiar with your inner critic? It likes to gives you a hard time for your behavior and loves the word should, “You should have been more kind,” “You shouldn’t have eaten all those cookies.”
Your inner critic spends a good deal of time blaming you for things and passing judgment on you. It tells you that,“You are not good enough as you are,” “You did something wrong,” and “You should be really embarrassed.”
In Step number 5 we talked about quieting a critical voice inside, now we’re going to help your child engage and listen to another voice inside, a very helpful voice -- intuition. The Voice by Shel Silverstein does a great job describing intuition:
Your intuition is connected to you at the deepest level. It is your judgment for what is right and wrong for you in a given situation. We want our children to stay in touch with their intuition because it acts in their best interest at all times.
You Don't Have to be Pretty . . . or Thin
You don’t owe prettiness to anyone. Not to your boyfriend or spouse or partner, not to your co-workers or friends, especially not to random men on the street. You don’t owe prettiness to your mother, you don’t owe it to your children, you don’t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not the rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female.”
Blogger, Erin McKean
With so much emphasis on women’s bodies in our culture, and with all the media images imposing a narrow standard for beauty, it might seem impossible to have and maintain a positive body image. The following four blogs in MyBodyImage discuss how to cultivate a positive body image using My Body Journal as a tool to help locate your thoughts around your body. These blogs build upon each other and discuss how to develop a positive body image with discussion and tools centered around the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA’s) definition of a “positive body image:”
Let's try to think about our own body shape and size. This will take some focus because we often are not aware of most of our own deeply held thoughts about our bodies. Your task in addressing a negative body image is to become familiar with unhelpful thoughts about your body that you are thinking deep down, so you can confront them. When they are left unattended, brewing below the surface of your mind, your thoughts can develop unmanaged as the years roll on.