My Body, My Self 

mindfulness

I just spent the last two weeks in Paris eating French food, drinking French wine, and talking about life with French women. It just doesn’t get much better than that for me!

With all the discussion about body image and 'diet culture' in the United States, I was fascinated to learn that the average French woman doesn’t have the same issues around her body image and eating that we have here in America. While French society does put pressure on women to be thin, your average (not eating disordered) French woman does not diet and is not struggling with the emotional consequences of food restricting that so many American women experience. How could this be?

'Staying awake at the plate' is about eating mindfully, more fully aware of your emotions, your behaviors, and your motivations around eating.  It’s about living in the present moment with your eating behavior rather than worrying about the past or obsessing about the future.  
 
Every idea we’re exploring in MyBodyMySelf centers around becoming aware of your eating behavior and figuring out what works and doesn’t work for you. Mindful eating is what Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habits, defines as a keystone habit – a certain habit that’s actually more important than other habits because it transforms everything around it. Today's discussion explores the large and small ways mindfulness can transform your eating. 

We all know physical appearance is just a part of who you are.  Clearly too much emphasis has been placed on appearance in today’s world. So, if appearance says little about your value as a person, what does say something about your character and value as a person to you?  How do you define yourself?  Is it in terms of being a loving mom?  A kind friend?  A competent athlete? Capable at your job? It is probably a combination of some of these things that make up how you define your whole person, your character and value.  

Let's try to think about our own body shape and size. This will take some focus because we often are not aware of most of our own deeply held thoughts about our bodies. Your task in addressing a negative body image is to become familiar with unhelpful thoughts about your body that you are  thinking deep down, so you can confront them. When they are left unattended, brewing below the surface of your mind, your thoughts can develop unmanaged as the years roll on.